“Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
As I was browsing through friendship quotes, trying to find just the right one, two things stood out to me. For one thing, I can’t imagine a more commented-upon subject than friendship. There were so many quotes to wade through! All through the ages, people have thought it important to put their musings on friends and friendship down in writing. Secondly, the common theme of the importance of having friends is in most every thought represented in the compilation of quotes. There was not one mention of friends being overrated.
|I met Mah Honey in 1993|
Ultimately, the quote I chose reflects an idea that is near to my heart: The importance of treating yourself as you would your best friend.
|Friends with Elise since 1996|
For some reason, God blessed me with abundant, unfounded self-confidence. I say unfounded because on paper, a train wreck would have been less uncomfortable to watch than my upbringing. Nothing about my childhood was what you’d call “normal”, yet somehow I exuded confidence in my own abilities even when other people tried to discourage me. At various times in life, I have had to call on this reserve of courage to remind myself that I am worthy of respect and love and kindness, no matter how others treated me.
|Jody doesn’t call me her Texas Twin for nothing!|
I don’t know why, but God has also blessed me with a heart for listening and counseling others. I’m not quick to judge and give my unsolicited opinion, but if you want to talk to me about a problem, I am all ears and willing to tell you what I think. I’ve been told that people leave my presence feeling better than they did before they saw me. That is one of the best compliments I’ve ever received. I don’t think I’m all that wonderful; I just hope that others see the God who lives in me and were comforted by Him.
|I’ve known Ellen since 1980|
I think that God created each of us to have friends and to BE a friend to others. One of the reasons God tells us in Hebrews 10:25 to not neglect “assembling together” is so that we can be an encouragement to one another. It’s for our best to be surrounded by friends!
|I’ve known Amy since 1985|
Like the quote by Eleanor Roosevelt says, we must first befriend ourselves if we are able to befriend others. To me, that means talking to ourselves with the kindness and care we would a friend. The negative self-talk that others confide to me just kills my soul. If they talk to themselves as if they were a hated, unlovable, stupid, fill-in-the-blank person, how must they allow others to talk to them?
|Friends with Alicia since 2007|
The best way I have found to be a better friend of Me is to remind myself who I am in Christ. God created me in His image and He loves me and desires a relationship with me. He created me for His purposes and blessed me with skills and thoughts and words and opportunities that only I possess. He loves me so much that He didn’t just wish me luck and send me on my merry way to navigate life on my own. He gave me His thoughts on all sorts of subjects, written by several people over a period of hundreds of years, and inspired another set of men to compile them into one book, and inspired yet other men to translate them into various languages so that all people may come to know Him. It blows my mind that the God who created the world and everything in it cares to know me and wants me to know Him, and provided all the means to do so.
|Friends with Callie since 1986|
People, even friends, will inevitably let me down, but God never will. He will never leave me or forsake me. He knows I’m not perfect, yet He thinks I’m worth extending grace to. I KNOW I’m not perfect, and I think I’m worth extending grace to. To me, that is the most important way to express friendship to anyone, self included.
The next time you are feeling down, and in need of a friend, think about being a friend to yourself. Try it, you might like it!